Friday, September 17, 2010

It Takes a Village to Care for An Idiot

I just have to pop in and say that I am the blessed recipient of the most amazing care. Everyone pities me, which is rich - you just don't GET that every day. And then they feed me.

We have had over three weeks worth of loving friends bringing meals, flowers, and even groceries. I've had friends, and an aunt, lay on the bed with me and just hold my hand and even sleep. You KNOW you're comfortable when you fall asleep with other people on your bed with you. I've had the loveliest cards and texts and phone calls. One friend even dropped off a pin that says, "I Love Pain Meds." And I DO.

(I've also seen more Dr. Feel than I ever care to again but I did glean a few tidbits to help me tidy up the emotional wreckage I like to call my personality.)

Something you probably don't know about me is that I really want to entertain. And I RARELY do. I used to. A lot. I know this because I was reading my son's baby book to him while on my back and it had a calendar with the dates we had people over for dinner and shopping trips for Christmas party supplies. I threw a whiz bang Christmas party every year for our friends. Then life moved on. Our friends changed as we all went in different directions. And our furniture got rattier and we ripped out the carpet and bought wood flooring to install. The only room done? My daughter's and she doesn't even live here anymore. The furniture finally got replaced but the flooring still isn't finished. But I want EVERYthing to be done before I entertain again. And you know what? Life is passing me by.

Being on my back in bed for three weeks made me throw the doors open wide and say, "Here it is! All our imperfection is open for inspection!" This has been an incredibly humbling experience. I have friends with E.X.Q.U.I.S.I.T.E. homes and I have friends who live very simply. I didn't pick ANY of them for their home and I know for CERTAIN they didn't pick me for mine. Why do I care? I can give a lot of reasons, and some of them valid, but the reality is we just don't get do-overs for a life.

My constant prayer has been, "Lord, let me entertain again before I can't." He answered me through this recovery time after surgery. Gee, thanks, Lord. I have entertained in the lamest way possible. Others have provided ALL the food and the decorations while I supplied nothing but feeble "thank yous." However, I've had all these different people into my home so at least the barrier has been broken and I'd like to think of that as entertaining. (I can convince myself of almost anything.) Other than the occasional kid friend, people are once again being admitted into "Imperfect Land." And they keep coming.

Why? I have no idea. It's not because I'm a wonderful person. It's because they are. So what was I so worried about?

Hoping to be back soon!

With Love,


©Copyright 2010


  1. Wishing a speedy recovery ... but NOT too speedy ... it's OKAY to be the recipient of all the food, cards, and company once and a while. You have a magnificent sense of humor and it has served you well ... so as one 'idiot' to another (The Duck is the sole caregiver of me, though!) Smile and say thank you ... and go back to sleep. Hugs, Sandy

  2. Hope all gets back on track for you soon.

  3. I hope you start feeling more like your old self soon. Or even better.Your new self! Big hugs from me and TLC. If we lived closer I would so bring you some food.

  4. feel better so you can throw a great Christmas party!

  5. You are seeing friends and family through clear glasses. They care about you. Isn't that cool? Keeping you company and supplying food and companionship while you recover is a blessing they offer because you are so loved.

  6. They always say that it is better to give than to receive, then what does that say about the receiver? Give and receive is a two way street, maybe you've needed all your friends and family to take care of you and shower you with love because you gave them the same thing. Doesn't matter what a house looks like, people come to visit to be home with you and your family. Take care of yourself and enjoy the pampering, you deserve it!

  7. Well, you could never say that God doesn't have a sense of humor, huh?! I love it!!! Hope you're back on your feet soon!!! Missed you! And, you have to come by and check out my multiple Lolo posts! :-) XO!

  8. I had a friend tell me that she liked coming to my house because I have piles of stuff on my counters and shoes by the door and popsicle sticks on the coffee table and it makes her feel at home, and not like running home to clean her house...LOVE IT!!

    You are on your way and we will celebrate (with a Tequila Mockingbird) when you arrive!

    Love, Suzanne

  9. Did going on real food instead of fast food throw your body into such a shock that it was trying to reject you? I have an extra kidney if you need it... works real good,too, especially at night. And, by the way, this isn't the time to worry about the house. Your dirty little secret is out for a reason... for you to know that your friends come to see Y.O.U.

    Love you SASS... mind the doctors.


  10. See? This is just something that we've known all along. It's YOU we all love - and not necessarily the state of your house!
    Lap it up girl, because the tables are turned now - and you're only getting back the blessings that you've so freely given others.

    My mama used to have a plaque in her kitchen that said " If you've come to see me, Welcome! Come on in and set a spell. If you've come to see my house, make an appointment.

    I have nothing to offer you other than my love and some toast. I'll just slip it under the door, okay?
    The toast that is. Not the love. THAT wouldn't fit under the door!

    Hug hug, kiss kiss, hug hug, big kiss, little hug, kiss kiss, little kiss.

  11. Love you Robin! Glad to see you!Hope you get back on your feet and chair real soon!
    Don't worry you entertain everytime you blog.Thanks for letting us come into your home!I think it looks great around here!
    Praying for you everyday!

    Keep on Truckin!

  12. It's so good to keep tabs on you on Facebook, but this little post has brightened my day a whole bunch! (You might notice I'm up in the middle of the night, though, trying to get back to sleep by reading a coupla blogs.) Hugs to you, Robynn, and thanks for this. You are getting better when you can post something this long!! Love you!

  13. Having been on the recieving end of all the giving it can be a bit overwhelming!

    It's good to have a wealth of wonderful friends, especially those who can cook and deliver food or even better those who just come to hang out and spread the cheer!

    Hoping the rest of your recovery will go well and that you will be bakc to your wonderful self very soon!


  14. When I think of growing up and spending Christmas at Grandmas or an Aunties house, the LAST thing I recall is how the house looked. The smell of the food and the warmth of the laughter are all I really could relate to you today. But its hard for us to truly live by that isn't it? Be well Robynn, be well :) xoxo

  15. I love this post! You have some wonderful friends. Wonderful. Get better soon and heal well.

  16. Sometimes we only appreciate the perfection of life through our own imperfections!

    And anyway, this kind of entertaining is wonderful. Other people bring the food and then they clean up afterwards and you don't have to lift a finge! Perfect! ;-)

  17. Learning how to receive is a humbling experience, isn't it? I love to entertain and feed and water people, but like you for the past few weeks it is me who has needed to be fed, watered, sometimes just have someone hold my hand. At first it felt strange, but once I opened up my heart, the love just poured in. Friends and family are an amazing bunch.

    I hope your recovery is complete!

  18. I'm hoping that you'll be back soon too. I miss your raving (and of course your humor:-) Sending more prayers and hugs.

  19. BUT IT IS BECAUSE YOU ARE WONDERFUL!!!!! BECAUSE YOU ABSOLUTELY ARE!!!!!! Love and miss you so very, very much!!! Janine OX

  20. I don't even know you personally and I think you are terrific. Specifically I love you from here, so I know all those folks coming by didn't pick you for your home and probably not even for your personality, which I think is GREAT, but the YOU that resides in that body that isn't cooperating at the moment is who they love.

    Get well soon and keep on writing.

    Many Blessings
    B.J. Robinson

  21. We DO love you!! And your house was very warm when we visited. I actually didn't pay attention, I was more concerned about how you were doing. You and Jaime are easy and fun to talk to. I would come and stay with you any old day, sister! Ejnoy the cooler weather we will have for the next few days and I know you've been down a while but try to relax. I always say that when we are down longer than expected, God has a reason. Just take in all that he has for you in this season of time.
    Love you!!

  22. SO glad to hear that you are alright... and semi back to your funny ways. Think of you often.

  23. entertain us on your blog! I'm glad you are starting to feel better, Robynn!


  24. Being on your back reminded me of my elderly friend and knitting buddy Mary Lyn. She broke her back years ago when her kids were very little and what did she do as she was laid up for weeks on end laying on a bed or the couch flat on her back....she taught herself to knit in that position.
    Tonight I pray that you will find a good measure of the Lord's grace as you continue to heal.
    Love you dear,
    Hugs to you....Pam

  25. Hope you are feeling better I finally got a new computer. ;) I will continue to follow you on HERE...I like your style! Ps. Give Uncle Grizzly a hug and tell him he better be treating you like a queen!

  26. wow I'm jealous of the visitors, last week I wouldn't want any but this week I do.We are in the same boat and I really can relate to the entertaining. I have quit and don't know why, but i love it. Hope you have a speedy recovery and be careful! I messed my recovery up with a nasty fall. love ya

  27. I had a friend who had a very small house on the river. Her views were beautiful, but she was very insecure about her house. I didn't realize this until one day, she spoke of it and how she didn't like to invite people over because of it.
    I told her I didn't care what kind of house she had, I loved her because of her, and it had nothing to do with a house.
    She cried. My friend has passed on due to an accident and I sure miss her. What memories would I have if I had not visited her and ignored the small house she lived in?
    Don't let things like that hold you back. True friends will love you for who YOU are.

  28. I've been thinking about you. I hope that you are still improving and getting healthier each and every day!!

  29. Just here to send you my love!!!! Janine XO

  30. Bless your sweet little funny heart! In your pain, I heard a message I didn't want to, but needed to hear. I want to have people over. I want to be hospitable. I want to be able to minister to people in my home, but it's not people ready. My floor is the pits. We also took up the carpet, but never finished the redo job. I'm embarrassed by it, but finances put a squelch on things..or rather lack of them. I realized as I read your post that I'm letting the enemy rob me of what I'm supposed to be doing (opening my home) because of my pride. It's got to change. I'll get back with you on that....;-) Meanwhile, I'm praying for your recovery, Robynn!

  31. My prayers are with you for a quick recovery.

  32. When my good friend, Rose was sick fighting cancer, I was always so amazed at how easily and graciously she received help and love and friendship. I took some private mental notes during that time and hoped that I could welcome others the way she welcomed us, because it made us all somehow feel so privileged to share in the journey with her. We didn't feel awkward or out of place because she received it so well. I don't even receive compliments well! We love you too and even though I haven't been able to be there as much as I'd like, know that we LOVE to be with you because you make us feel loved! Reg :)

  33. We only reap what we sow and you have obviously given sunlight and love to all these people in the past. Get well soon :) x

  34. Just checking in to say I hope you're doing well: resting and taking it easy and being waited on hand and foot.

  35. LONG time no see. Hope you are well... and send you huge hugs and kisses. Can you do me a favour, and just tell me you're OK?? xxxxx
    ( I miss you, you see!)x

  36. i can SOOO relate...when i had colon cancer surgery, my friends came in and cleaned, cooked, shared their presence...God showed me how to receive and now I so appreciate giving even MORE!
    God bless and recovery prayers coming your way

  37. Just dropping by to see how you are doing and hoping you are getting better each day.

  38. It's past midnight and I should be heading off to bed, but tonight I've been trying to catch up with my friends in Blogland. It's been months....
    And I find that you are recovering from surgery??? Looks like I've missed a lot and I don't have time to go back and catch up!! :-(
    So, I'll just start praying for you!

    Hugs, dear friend!

  39. Howdy Robynn
    You are such a hoot !
    Love your great sense of humor and praying that you will be fully recovered ,rested ,refreshed and ready to blog again before the year is over .
    Ravings bring them on honey
    I miss them !
    Life is never as we think it is ,nor are we ever as imperfect as we think we might be .
    God is with us all the way from start to finish and everything in between.
    Be blessed and enjoy the service while you can after all you may find yourself up and about soon with no one to cook for you or hold your hand darn cant we ever have it all :)
    Seriously take care of yourself and remember you are awesome and lifted up in prayers.
    Hugs from Texas
    Until next time
    Happy Trails

  40. Sending positive thoughts your way! Hope you will be entertaining over the holidays!