Wednesday, June 10, 2009

Dearly Departed......

And then there were none.

The last of my visiting cousins left early this morning to head back to Oregon. That group comprised Joey, his wife Laurie, and their girls, Elizabeth and Ashley, the 19-yr-old twins, Katie, The Wild Man's age and in full possession of a sensitive and curious mind, and Julianna, 11, the spitfire. We got to keep Elizabeth for the night on Monday (she is at college so she and Bo had a lot to talk about). And most came for lunch yesterday as we hung out and had great laughs. Ashley had to miss out on this part because she headed for Ukraine on a missions trip.

On Saturday night we hosted the Illinois/Iowa cousins. Kristen (on the left here) and Stasha (on the right) came rolling in for dinner and stayed into the wee hours of Sunday morning. I had never met Stasha. She moved to California in 1993 and, being the functional family we are, no one ever told us. The fact is, no one really has much of a relationship with anyone else and truth-telling is at a minimum. (If the craziness on both sides of this family tree gets any deeper, the Grand Canyon will look like a mud puddle in comparison. Ah, Egypt....I do NOT long for you. I LOVE the Promised Land!) In fact, she never knew she had family in California. And Kristen we saw, for the first and last time, once, when she was 15.


So here we are, the remnant, the truth-tellers. Some of the cousins and one Aunt, from both sides of my family, willing to look the facts in the eyeball and move forward. Willing to do the hard work of changing family legacies, by God's goodness and grace to us, and then gladly Lampooning everything within range, for sanity's sake. No "Leave It to Beaver" here. In fact, I think most everything must have gotten left to Beaver. Except the humor - who has more fun than a bunch of refugees from wacked-out families? And what we lack in family numbers we make up for in the largest and most supportive group of true friends - some of them refugees themselves. And the best thing about friends is you get to pick them. O yea, O YAY!

So goodbye, family. Thank you for the reconnect. I hope it grows and blossoms as we've all headed down our different paths of reconstruction. God bless us everyone. Especially the goofballs like Junlianna here with as many grapes in her mouth as she can shove in.



Copyright 2009

28 comments:

  1. And light comes out of the darkness. And laughter and humor arise out of the debris of a wretched past. Sounds like the seeds were sown for a new history, a new legacy and a new direction to move in! Blessings to you all for bravely stepping into this new adventure in your own way! Love to you Robynn!

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  2. You give hope to those of us with dysfunctional families. Good seeds do come to ground and they do sprout up some wonderful people.

    Sounds like a wonderful time was had at your house.

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  3. What a beautiful post! You have such a way with words, and can simultaneously make me laugh and cry...pulling ever at my heartstrings! So glad that it turned out to be such a great time for you all!!! YOU deserve such happiness, Robynn!!!!! ~Janine XO

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  4. Whoa girl... what a beautiful post!

    Maybe we can't change the past... but we can choose a whole new future and a brand new direction, can't we?

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  5. OHHH, THANKS FOR THE INFO ON THE AMERICANO'S IT SOUNDS SCRUMPTIOUS. I WILL TRY ONE AT STARBUCKS. AND LOOK INTO A MACHINE.

    BUG THANK YOU HUGS FROM MAINE

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  6. Ah family ... I am glad you'all reconnected and intend on keeping said connection .. its a good thing. I love how she looks as if she's doggy begging ..

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  7. That's so cool that you were able to get together and have some good, quality family time!

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  8. Sounds as though you had a wonderful time with your family...I hope your wish to stay close comes true!

    I have relatives I haven't seen in forever...and some who live in my city who I see at the grocery story or sometimes they stop by the market...we just never take the next step!

    Cheers

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  9. Glad you had fun!

    My word verification is "shexplat"=sean connery saying sex plate. I have no idea what a sex plate is, but for some reason it struck me as hilarious.

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  10. Family,... a good thing. Sometimes (like mine) not very visible (a handful of cousins across the country, no aunts/uncles left) but connecting is wonderful. And if it happens again that's great, if it doesn't, well, you had this time.

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  11. Sounds like a great time for all and many had deep thoughts and conversations creating bonds and all in your house which is truly a wonderful thing.
    I always say if only the walls could talk what wonders they would have to tell from history. lol
    Thanks:)

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  12. Now why can't I write a brilliant post about my family like you write about yours? Gosh, Robynn, you are one very talented writer to be able to write about dysfunctional families in such a positive way!

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  13. Okay, Robynn...so I realize you have already received this award...but it so fits you, and you are so one of my all-time favorite writers...and therefore, I simply MUST give it to you again...you can do what you will with it...I don't even care if you pass it on...just wanted to let you know how great I think you are! The Honest Scrap Award awaits you at my place...~Janine XO

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  14. Robynn,
    Joel 2:25 is the very first thing that came to my mind after I finished reading your post.
    "So I will restore to you the years that the swarming locusts has eaten.."....no matter the dysfunction, painful pasts, hurts, we may have had in our background; when the Lord is at the center and we look to Him to bring change, deliverance. He surely will Restore and bring Joy in the Morning.
    Thank you dear sister for sharing your heart in each and every post. So glad you've had this chance to connect.
    I know the dysfunction that can come..have an uncle that married a gal that is my age(55), he is 80 plus...it tore the family up and my cousins no matter how I have tried to reconnect with them...it's like well your on the bad side of the family since their dad was my dad's brother...it's really a sad affair. And to make matters worse my uncles first wife was my mom's closet and dearest friend growing up....it stinks what can happen in families. So dear gal...Praise God..he is reconnecting and renewing!

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  15. I can't tell you all how touched I am by your comments. When I dashed that off this morning I honestly thought I'd be boring you with yet more family stuff and not doing you justice with an actual article-type writing (I KNOW I'm overdue).

    But here you all are, encouraging me in such beautiful ways. I am so touched and have heard from cousins that lives were impacted here and healings begun. Thank you, all of you.....truly I don't know what to say. Your love and kindness is reaching beyond my boundaries.

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  16. I love reading 'anything' that you write, you have such a way with words ... like someone wrote you can make me laugh and cry at the same time. Yours is a gift, thank you for sharing.

    Mine was no "Leave it to Beaver" family, I cannot change the past, hopefully I can learn from it, though. I only have Today and I'm grateful that you have shared your time with me. Hugs :>)

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  17. The house must be so empty now? Where do you put everyone?

    I'm glad you had fun!

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  18. I'm so glad that you had some great visits with family. vbs is going well, our pastors surgery keeps getting postponed, it is scarey and frustrating for the family.
    have a great rest of the week

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  19. With families like that you need a sense of humour! That last picture is just too funny...

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  20. Love the pic of Junlianna!So very cute!
    Thanks,for the welcome!

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  21. It sounds like you had a good time with your visiting family. I think it's great that some of you are trying to connect and stay in touch. It IS great that you can pick your friends....you sure CAN'T pick your family! Enjoy the peace & quiet now that the family is gone. Take care, friend!

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  22. One of my missions in life is to help reconnect and heal families. This post is an example of the hope that exists. Blessings to you and your family.

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  23. Oh, the silence must be deafening right about now! It really does take a concerted effort to keep connected, good for you in making a start in the right direction!

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  24. Robynn, Your acceptance speech is priceless!!! I'm laughing until the tears stream...can't say I qualify as a cheerleader either...I'm neither blond nor beautiful...and I certainly cannot do any gymnastic stunts!!! LOL...But you are MOST welcome! ~Janine XO

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  25. Wow Rob, That's amazing!! What a great find! So glad it was like that for you! Am looking forward to seeing you amongst the celebrations this weekend, starting with your Bo!
    love you

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  26. Hi Robin, you have this way of writing that enables many of us to just insert our names where yours is noted in the article. Similar circumstances, just different family. Knowing I am not the only one gives me comfort . . . but then God is the ultimate comfort isn't He! Thanks again for hitting another one out of the ballpark!

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  27. Dearest Robynn..
    Thank you so much for the comforting words you left regarding the loss of my beloved Binks. I do miss her terribly. A lady from my Vet's office hand delivered a card to me today.. In it was a copy of a poem titled "Rainbow Bridge" and a loving note from Binks Vet. Also included was another card with a priceless gift. Now just to show you how amazing God is and how He works..I will share this.. I had sat on my back patio last night crying just looking at the lil muddy paw prints Binks had left behind. I had told Jeff and Ashley both to be careful and not wash them off.. I wanted them to stay there. Well we had a hard rain late last night and all of the lil prints were washed away. I was devastated.. running around like a crazy person trying to find just the smallest image of one that may have remained..but no luck. Then a few hours later.. I get a knock at the door and it's a lady from the Vet's office with an envelope with that card and the other surprise.. a small card with Binks name and her lil paw print stamped on it. My heart swelled..and as soon as I could breathe I choked out the words thanking Jesus for allowing such wonderful people in my life that would be so thoughtful to save such a priceless momento for me. I also thanked Him for all of my friends such as yourself here in Blogland that have been such a blessing during this sad time. I truely am blessed.
    ~Loving Hugs,
    Debbie

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  28. I think there is more dysfunction than not in this world...therefore our need for Jesus. And even those of us who think we are "functional" really aren't in every way. I'm so glad you were able to get connected with some long-lost family. Maybe your blog will help keep you all connected...it's a great tool that way! See you tomorrow night!

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