Tuesday, May 12, 2009

My Mother's Day.....How Was Yours?

This post falls into the diary category but you're welcome to read it. I don't like that feeling - the one that happens about every two hours when I wonder, "What just happened?" or "What in the heck did I do yesterday?" This is my written memory of the good, the bad, and the redeemed.

Blessed to be teaching Sunday School. LOVE those kids and many are graduating next week. OH MY WORD! Thinking about leading a college Sunday School class in the fall because I can't let them go. And it would be all girls, well, young WOMEN, and most are going to school or working locally. Wouldn't that be fun?! Just not sure I'm really qualified. I didn't get my head on straight until...........hold on........let me go look in the mirror.

Honored my mother for bringing me into this world. Took her roses and a cookbook. Visit went south for oh-so-many reasons that are insane but the MAIN THING IS, I tried. Then, due to the maximum frustration of that visit and feelings of wanting to relocate to Mars except for the fact that it's so darn close to EARTH, I tried to reschedule my own Mother's Day. Glad I didn't because.....


My daughter made me a lovely dinner while I rested and read (and she had cleaned and detailed my bedroom a few days before!), and both kids gave me cards - The Wild Man made me laugh, of course, and Bo made me cry with words of encouragement only she could write - and George MacDonald books and music to, "soothe the savage breast." (Sing to me Allison Krause.......) It even works wonders on my savage brain.

And Grizzly? Thank you for fixing the sprinklers and computer for my folks while we were there. You tried, too. And you touched my heart by asking if I wrote that poem on the blog a few days ago and being amazed by that - in a very sweet way and saying so, even AGAIN, in your card. What woman doesn't want to be amazing to her husband once in awhile?

You three redeemers of the day.......I LOVE you with my whole heart. I am seen. I am loved. I am blessed. When I'm tempted to go all "Thelma and Louise" into the canyon, you always take my car keys. What a crew.



Copyright 2009

30 comments:

  1. ahhhh.... been down that road. hang in there,.. important thing is that you tried. and even more important,... you ARE loved.

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  2. Sounds a bit like my mother's day.

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  3. Thanks for sharing, Robynn! You are indeed wonderful!!!! And I'm so glad you have such an appreciative family...you deserve it!!!! I'm so sorry about the time with your mum...but I'm glad that you redeemed the day and continue redeeming the past with your family...and that they had this special day to show you how much they love you! What a terrific couple of kids! And your husband sounds like a really steady and supportive guy!!! Have a happy week, my fabulous, poet friend! With much love~Janine XO

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  4. I, for one, am very glad they hide the keys ...and I am glad your day turned out nicer than it seemed it would ... yay!!!!

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  5. "When we KNOW better, we DO better." Despite the ability of some people, remaining right where they are, in misery and brokenness and just short of insanity... the rest of us move forward with our lives. So glad to know you only visited the insanity, you didn't allow yourself to become entangled in it. You DO better!! You are living, breathing proof of better, in fact, my friend, you are THE BEST. Heartfelt words from the kids, and a meal cooked by a loving and beautiful daughter, and Everything Gizzly... well thank goodness for hidden car keys!!! Love you Robynn!

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  6. Next time you think that you might be going "Thelma and Louise" can I please come with you? Please, Please, Please? I'll bring sandwiches, chips and brownies! Might as well go on a full stomach!

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  7. ... I feel ya, woman. So glad your family took the keys from you, too. I'd rather have your company here than over the canyon. :)

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  8. Of course you got me thinking what could have gone wrong. But I'll stop and enjoy that so much went right. I am glad you have such a wonderful family.

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  9. I got to bake banana bread with my toddler girls and knit with my best friend:)Hugs Darcy

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  10. Cedar: It's so strange. The things I find comforting out here are knowing some of you have, or have had, really loving healthy relationships with your mothers, because it encourages me and gives me such great HOPE! and, then knowing there are those of you who know exactly what I mean. It helps me feel like a part of the "sisterhood of the understood." (HEY! That rhymes and sounds like an award we should make and pass around! - Bo could do it when she makes the "Velveteen Rabbit" award - which she is going to do.)

    Karen: I'll send you the award when it's up! :)

    Janine (@S&S): Here's a beautiful friend who had the aforementioned type of mother. This lady is a bonafide writer and teacher and you all would enjoy her work so much. She writes eloquently and movingly about her parents (among many other subjects) and it would warm your heart just to read her. Do yourselves a favor and visit! She had the mom we all STRIVE to be. And thank you, Janine, for all your kind words!!!

    Daryl: Thank you, friend! But man, didn't they get some great hang time there for a minute?! And didn't they look so free in their scarves and sunglasses? LOL

    Vicky: Most of the time I am able to keep emotional distance and REALLY GOOD and healthy boundaries. And then once in awhile my border guards don't show up for work. I think that's what happened Sunday. (Insert song here....) "But that was yesterday, and yesterday's gone!!) Okay - I'm offically old.

    Libby: You betcha!! That last scene is so us!! We're going out on a full stomach. Can you imagine the canyon on a DIET?!

    Gitz: Thank you and here's another one with a BEAUTIFUL and WONDERFUL mama. You guys should go over there and look at posts from about a week ago. She has photos up of the two of them and they look EXACTLY alike. Both gorgeous!

    Sharon: Thank you friend and I'll spare you the crazy-making details because I know you have crazy details of your own. I'm sending you the button, too! :)

    Darcy: I saw what you guys were up to and it looked FUN!!

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  11. Robynn, I am glad that you were able to salvage your mother's day to some degree.

    It sounds like your daughter pampered you right! Dinner and a detail cleaned bedroom?! Awesome. Big hugs!

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  12. Awww What a glorious day you had. Thanks for sharing it with us. I ran across a blogger this morning that posted a story and my first thought was "that sounds like something that would happen to Robynn". Go here and get ready to laugh.
    Hugs
    Debbie
    http://screamingmimitoo.blogspot.com/2008/10/i-may-have-to-change-grocery-stores-but.html


    oh yeah.. good luck on making those graduation cap pops... make sure you share pics.

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  13. Happy Mother's Day a couple days late! Been in blog fog for days / weeks getting my companion blog finally completed and up and running. My Mothers Day was quiet and peaceful. And a little topsy turvey talking on the phone with my mom who live in another state. Conversations are hard to navigate- she's got dementia and early alzheimer's. So you never know where your conversation will lead and what her out of the blue left field response might be to what you just said. Leaving you either cross eyed, dumbfounded, trying really hard not to laugh, and trying to figure out where her mind just went and why and then try to get her to navigate back to logic thoughts...Whew...it's a chore.
    As always, enjoying your blog Robynn.

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  14. What a strange and wonderful day it sounds like you had for Mother's Day. So sorry about the trip south, but the cards from the kids and help and all from Grizz perhaps saved the day.

    Helen

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  15. You are too good to me!!! I love you so much! ~Janine XO

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  16. Despite a little setback it looks like your Mother's day went well.

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  17. I'm laughing at how humorous you can make the most meloncholly of times sound. God is good. He has blessed you with a WONDERFUL family. Aren't you thankful for amazing husbands and children who give us grace when we need it and love us "warts and all"! (Well not you, just me of course).

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  18. I have fallen behind reading blogs. The problem is I follow too many. So hard to keep up with all the wonderful blogs out there. When visiting Libby I saw her shout out about you. Now I know kind of what is happening with you. I hope you will be better soon. But know that we are here no matter what. My mother's day was so so. I ended up getting sick and was off work yesterday. Went back today. I guess I am better now. Weird bug with nausea and such. Part of aging maybe? I hope not!
    Take care,
    Linnea

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  19. Robynn..
    It's just a lil picture I made so that people would have an image to click to get to your site. If you want it .. I can make you the code for it so you can post it for folks to put on their blogs. OR if there is a different one you'd like.. a certain picture or logo or whatnot I can make you the code for that.. whichever you'd like. Just let me know and I'll start on it first thing in the morning. I'll walk you through the whole process of getting it posted and how to have the code visible for others to copy.
    Hugs,
    Debbie

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  20. Families are weird and wonderful...

    So glad you have your three redeemers to keep you living and laughing!

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  21. Hi!

    sounds very blessed to have such a wonderful wonderful precious daughter!!

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  22. Dysfunctional can be fun, but I hear you on the mom stress. I haven't spoken to her since 1996. Currently have her youngest (my half-sister) and my husband and I are raising a teen along with our toddlers. Mom just doesn't get it. Sometimes I wish I could scream at her and others the adage of "always respect your parents" keep me from doing anything to upset her or me. Dysfunction at it's best.

    Glad your Mother's Day was salvaged.

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  23. I know it's a little late, but Happy Mothers day. From me and the littlest Cowboy.

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  24. Robynn...I'm sorry...I've tagged you! See my latest post...

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  25. so very sweet. I'm glad that your Mother's Day turned out well even after your visit with your mom!

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  26. You are loved, and you had a great mother's day after all! That's just great!

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  27. Well dadgum! ...I'm here to leave a comment on your post today and went back to read yesterday's comments again... and I SWEAR I typed a well thought out and worded comment about not feeling guilty and you trying was the all that mattered and putting YOU first and ...I tied it and added OTHER stuff ....but it ain't there(!) .....sighhhh. I composed it in my email where I can spell check stuff... geees......... welllll..... I just went and check... didn't send it to anyone or throw it away.
    sighh
    Sorry your mom doesn't appreciate you like a mom should.. some people, it seems, are so wounded that they can't see beyond the nose on their face.
    Glad YOUR family is not like that.
    hugs to ya

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  28. Yes, I've been landscaping. Which is why I haven't been commenting regularly. I'm sure you were waiting on the edge of your seat for my comments, huh?! Hope you're doing well! So glad you have sweet Bo! And Wild Man. AND, GRIZZLY READ YOUR BLOG! Wow! YAY! That was very touching. I find compliments from my husband lift me up more than anything else. :-)

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  29. I love George MacDonald's books! But I'm sorry things went south with your mom. Is 'going south' better than going nowhere? (As in no word at all from my kid!)

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